I was told by TWO, not just one person today, that I need to be assertive. Make that three, if my hubby agreeing with the first two, counts. The first was my day job boss. The second, my psychologist. Actually, my day job boss was giving me good news overall. I mean really really good news that I'm bursting to shout out but can't yet. Then he added the caveat, that I have to be more confident and assertive, and to improve my verbal communication skills. Hey! I'm a writer. We writers get to edit our material before presenting it for publication. Speaking is far different. There's usually only a second or two in which to think about our spoken words. He says I'm very detailed oriented - which is good when I'm in my administrative mode. I'm a great secretarial type - shorthand, type 100+ wpm, I can create formulas and graphs in Excel. But I want to be more. Hell, I got my MBA so I could be more than an administrative assistant. I worked damn hard for it. However, my boss says I'm too detailed when speaking. Soooooooooo, I'll be biting my nails and praying a LOT during the next few days. And I'll be practicing my assertiveness. Oh! I signed my contracts today for "Wild Fantasies", a TEB release for April 7th. As you can see, (even if I'm being vague), that it's been a great day - despite the assertiveness thing. One question: A couple months ago, my boss told me that I have a Type A personality. Yet he's now telling me I need to be more assertive. Aren't those two things opposite?