Friday, August 08, 2008

Liars must want to get caught

Once again, I'm flabbergasted. I probably shouldn't be. I've lived almost half a century so I've run across many people and many things. And yet, I learned a long time ago at the day job, that I've not heard it all, that our donors never fail to come up with some new, weird question. This isn't about the day job, though. It's about friends. Or at least acquaintances. My daughter's best friend had her 18th birthday party last evening. She was disappointed that several people didn't attend. She understood about the ones who had to work or who were out of town. One "friend", however, told her that she was "busy doing something more important". That wouldn't have been too bad had it been true. It wouldn't have been too bad had the friend been smart and kept her mouth shut. Unfortunately, the friend who couldn't attend the party posted to the birthday girl's MySpace page and to her boyfriend's MySpace page how "bored" she was several times throughout the party time. What the...? Can someone really be so idiotic? Or does this person want to be caught in her lies? Does she want to inflict pain on her friend? Why do people lie and then post it to MySpace for the world to see? Are they trying to rub something in someone's face? Do they really think no one reads MySpace (or other places on the web)? Do they not care about the other person's feelings? I'm just gobsmacked. Somehow, I doubt the birthday girl will invite this other girl to join the group in future, anymore than I desire to be part of the other group ever again. There's something else that people do that reminds me of this. It's not exactly the same, but similar enough that it also gets a wry chuckle out of me and a shake of my head. A couple years ago, I got sucked into a scam business venture. Before I realized it was a scam and I was trying to work the business, I asked both my director and my recruiter questions by email from time to time. Rarely did they grace me with an answer. Once, my recruiter mentioned that she didn't respond when she didn't want to answer. Fair enough. At one time, I'd thought the recruiter was my friend. In fact, I got sucked into this business only because I was trying to help her. So I also sent a few personal friendly emails that had nothing to do with the business to which she never responded. Again, fair enough. No biggie. When I realized the business was a scam and that this recruiter was not my friend, I figured it was okay to stop answering her emails (only about the business, btw, never in a friendly capacity by this point). If it was okay that she didn't answer my emails and in essence "disappeared", it surely was okay for me to follow suit. Obviously not in her book for several months later I received very nasty emails from her that I just "disappeared" and "didn't answer her emails about the business". Again, people's arrogance never ceases to amaze me. I only realized in the past few years that I'm a lot like my dad in this way. He won't put up with "friends" who ignore him except when they want him to work on their computers, or who never stop to see him but always pass his house to visit someone who lives a few doors down the road from him. Outwardly, my mom was the sensitive one. Dad hides it. But now I see I get this tendency from him, not from her. That said, when an old friend who had done this began acting like a friend again, Dad accepted him back. Enough said. I'll stop rambling. Some days this stuff gets to me worse than others. I just feel bad for the birthday girl and I can so commisserate. She's a very nice person and she didn't deserve that. I just have to wonder if the other girl even realized the consequences of her actions. You'll want to see what Amarinda Jones, Anika Hamilton, Anny Cook, Barbara Huffert, Brynn Paulin, Bronwyn Green, Dakota Rebel, Kelly Kirsch, Molly Daniels, and Sandra Cox are up to, so make sure to visit them also. :) Hopefully they won't be as pensive as I am today.

4 comments:

Sandra Cox said...

That's really to bad. I'm sure it hurt her feelings. I hope your daughter's best friend had a good birthday in spite of what happened.

Amarinda Jones said...

People are strange. That sums it all up

barbara huffert said...

Sometimes teenagers are dumb for no reason at all. It's not an excuse. It's just how it is.

Ashley Ladd said...

I wish I could just put it down to being a teenager. But I think Amarinda's got it because I've seen adults do it, too. Oh well.

Yes, I think they had a fun birthday party. That "party" went all week with the core group of friends - about 6 of them.

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